Why do employees with children seem to get preferential treatment in the workplace?
Posted by greenFlag
schrodinger_hated_kats inquired:
In most places, on which I worked, then it seems like the coworkers with children keeps special treatment, like for example in the situation too fr
In most places, on which I worked, then it seems like the coworkers with children keeps special treatment, like for example in the situation too fr
October 15th, 2008 at 1:17 am
Because parenting is just as-if not more than- important than your career. Parents can’t help if their child is sick- they have to work to support their children. You’ll never understand what it’s like to try to balance work and a child until you become a parent.
P.S.- Just think, when you leave work, you don’t have someone waiting on you to take care of them, feed them, clothe them, etc. You can do what you want with your time. Parents don’t get that choice.
My gut feeling was right- you’re simply an angry person looking to take out your frustrations on other people. I’m sorry that you lost your child, but don’t be bitter towards other people.
But, I do agree with you on some things. I believe that anyone w/ a special circumstance should be helped as much as possible by their employer. In my opinion, caring for an elderly or sick parent (or any other family member) is just as important as taking care of a child.
October 17th, 2008 at 4:20 am
My sprogs arent problem for anyone else sees and none of therapy he uses his single friends do work which no one else thanks so no my sprogs arent problem.
My husband may take off for an ill child but he hasnt missed any work environment have two disabled children who require lot.
October 20th, 2008 at 7:13 am
Well leave when your working day is over!
Allowances should always be made for personal issues..within reason. No-one should be excluded from these particular exceptions etc.
October 21st, 2008 at 1:17 am
It seems like you should have a talk with your boss or supervisor. You shouldn’t be getting crapped on by co-workers in any manner or for any reason, and I am a Mom of four.
October 23rd, 2008 at 12:17 am
What the hell is your problem? Places of employment often understand what comes along with hiring an employee that has children. Since most people have kids. Now I am not saying that the parents that have kids should use their children as excuses, only when the children are actually sick. Think of it as this way, if you had kids that went to the same daycare or school would you want a child that was sick to come too or would you want their parent to stay home with them? In my case, I have 3 kids, when I worked there wasn’t anyone that could get my kids from daycare or school, just me. So I had to leave early. But a field trip should not take preference over a dr. appointment for you that you could get an excuse for.
October 23rd, 2008 at 9:44 am
Ha, I wished you worked where I worked, I’m a single mother and I **** HATE calling in, bc I know I’m going to get yelled at.
October 24th, 2008 at 8:04 am
I used to feel the same way until I had a child. I sued to **** the people that would get out of work early to pick up thier child or leave work early when daycare called and said thier child was sick. But what’s the difference between that parent leaving work early a couple times and the single guy that calls in sick with hangover or the smoker that gets a FREE 10 minute break once a hour to smoke?
I never wanted to children, I honestly hated kids. But we had one and I wouldn’t trade him in for world! I stopped working to raise him but when I re-enter the workforce when he starts school I will probably turn into the person that leaves early to pick up her kid.
October 25th, 2008 at 9:05 am
Do you really think that when those parents have to leave early b/c their child is sick that they are going to have fun??? I bet they would rather be staying at work than have to go home and clean up puke!!!! I bet they would even trade places with you!!! And don’t you know that if it weren’t for parents volunteering for field trips that your taxes would be more b/c they would have to hire help to come on the field trips with the kids!! And most of the working parents I know make up their missed time and work from that day later on in the week which means more work at home to be done and later nights and they still have to come in early when sleep deprived!! You need to get a life! And mind your own business!! Life is never fair!! And with your attitude you will always be miserable.
October 27th, 2008 at 1:50 am
S**t Happens!! I have a full time job and 2 kids under 8 yrs old. That’s 2 other lives that I’m responsible for. And I’m sorry but their life’s will come first. This is like me asking “why do people with no kids want to leave work early to go party then call in the next day cause they’re hung over, cause they had nothing else to worry about” Like I said S**t happens.
October 30th, 2008 at 3:29 am
I’m not sure where you work, but I still get dinged if I show up late or leave work early because of my child. I either have to make up that time later that week (which generally means working later or working through my lunch) or I have to take it out of my vacation time. And I don’t expect special treatment because of the reason I have to leave. I know that it’s up to me to work it out on BOTH ends, with family and work.
November 1st, 2008 at 9:26 pm
An excuse when was manager cant agree with you live.
The hours earlier in the week get no special treatment lets trade companies where do you there its inconsiderate and unprofessional period unless its.
November 3rd, 2008 at 6:29 am
For lonely life my friend with an attitude like that weeder.
My family youre in for you spouse sibling friend dies dont you even think about asking me to you nobody died in my friend dies dont you spouse sibling friend with an attitude like that weeder.
November 4th, 2008 at 3:29 am
I paid my dues when I was young and working. I volunteered to work every holiday and late night in anticipation of the time when I would not have that freedom. But my co-workers and bosses and I pull together to support each other. When someone was caring for an aging parent we covered for her, when someone else has health problems, we covered for her.
Perhaps the same reason you are not cut any slack is the same reason that prompted you to post this message. What goes around eventually comes around.
When my mother was a single working mom (in the early 80’s) her boss refused to give her a raise one year because she “thought about her kids too much while she was at work.” So thirty years and umpteen hundred discrimination lawsuits later, employers have finally decided to embrace providing employees with an opportunity for a work-life balance. Is that really a bad thing?
Many employers have children of their own and understand the complications. If you want to start to advocate for flex time for people with aging parents or other life issues, more power to you.
I am truly sorry that you lost your child. You seem to still have a lot of hostility towards people with children, I hope you got some help with your grieving.
November 5th, 2008 at 3:02 am
I don’t know where you work, but where I work, we all get treated equally. Yes, I’m a parent and I come in late. I also am here until after 6 pm when everyone else has left. That’s because my husband goes in EARLY so he can leave to p/u the children.
If I have to take off w/ a sick kid or take one to the doctor, I have to use my leave time, just like everyone else. A lot of times, I come to work when *I’m* sick to make up for having to stay home for somebody else.
As for preferential treatment, I don’t see it. My boss just got back from a week’s leave to take care of his brother who was in an accident. My admin took a month off for a back problem and is now working half-days. One of my co-workers has an 80 mile drive and is late nearly ALL the time. So it sounds to me like you’ve either got a wild hair up your booty, or you just work in a lousy environment.
November 8th, 2008 at 4:18 am
If your employer is actually doing these things, then you need to complain to your state’s labor board regarding unfair business practices.
I have never worked for an employer who would allow anyone to take a day off for any reason without using sick/vacation time. Or who allowed people extra sick/vacation time based on anything but years employed or full/part-time status. I have never worked for an employer who let some people come in late, but not others or who asked some people to stay late but not others.
I have been working in a variety of jobs throughout my life for the past 25 years – both when I was childfree and when I was a parent.