How do I get over sexual abuse?
Posted by greenFlag
Tommy Girl inquired:
I do not know where to turn and chamfer I take this empty void inside pi?. I was sexually abused by my brother pi? old age? 7 Finch? et? 12.I said to my sister and told my mother that did as if nothing ever happened and I were sent to help and did not know what was turning around me. Im 18 hours and as the years pass my past always attends the pi?
I do not know where to turn and chamfer I take this empty void inside pi?. I was sexually abused by my brother pi? old age? 7 Finch? et? 12.I said to my sister and told my mother that did as if nothing ever happened and I were sent to help and did not know what was turning around me. Im 18 hours and as the years pass my past always attends the pi?
December 5th, 2008 at 9:44 pm
talk to a professional, like a a counsellor, dont ask people on y/a
December 9th, 2008 at 3:22 am
The first answer you got is a good one. This isn’t really the place to deal with such issues.
If you go to your doctor they could put you in contact with councilors who will help you.
December 9th, 2008 at 3:32 am
you need professional help…get it somehow…make it your #1 priority…if you can’t afford it find a free counseling service in your area or see a priest,pastor or minister, if you don’t want to talk to them they may be able to direct you to someone…one thing to remember…-YOU DID NOTHING WRONG…IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! may the grace of God and the peace he offers be with you.
December 10th, 2008 at 7:22 pm
I have almost the exact same story to tell as you. I have been to counseling several times. Over the years, I was never able to conceive and have children of my own. They said it was scar tissue from being molested at a young age. Life is full of choices for you. You can be miserable every day and dwell on the past. Or, you can look forward to your future and be happy.Yes, I smile all the time.Sometimes it is artificial, but it is better than crying and moping around.I have not spoken to my brother for over 25 years. I believe you pick your friends not your family.Get help to move on. Good luck and you are in my thoughts and prayers!
December 14th, 2008 at 4:18 am
For personal and (no offense to you ,trust me) common sense
reasons I fully agree w/ #1&2 answerers…
We(the sincere ones) just don’t want you being abused or hurt more than you already have been and asking such a painful question on such a basic and open forum is seriously asking for trouble(on SO many levels) !
To try to help though…umm maybe you should try your local Department of Health and Human Services for starters. If you have insurance (really good ins @ that ) you should maybe check the yellow pages in your area for Emotional Therapists,
Abuse Counselors etc. As far as you feeling the way you do ..well thats not good for you!
You will realize that later as you heal ( and you will if you let yourself) that NOTHING you did brought this to happen to you!
I will tell you that the only thing that worked for me… was letting go to GOD (whether you believe it or not) . Only then was I able to accept that I’m loved, special and DO have a very important place on this planet we all call home as well as you .Another thing to think of is the deeper you bury something like this , the worse its going to hurt when it eventually surfaces . Everything hidden , will be revealed eventually.
Kinda like this , you take a bottle and fill 3/4 with water 1/4 oil.Put the cap on and shake it . What happens? For a very brief time two become one but shortly after shaking they separate and the oil surfaces., not unlike truth or pain in our lives.
I really wish there were more I could do to help , I only hope & pray that you get the help you deserve and never forget that you are a very loved and important young lady .
Don’t ever forget that!!
P.S. Feel free to contact me if you would like to “talk” about this , or anything.
December 15th, 2008 at 7:44 pm
Tommy,
excuse me and my language,
Don’t overload yourself if you’d like to have a relief
Don’t overload yourself if you’re afterr a resolution
Don’t overload yourself if you love to live and have friends.
What happened to you could have happened to others who you love too. What happened to you could have been from others also.What happened to you is, of course, not your mistake.
If you love life the same we care about you my friend, then you’ll have the strength to stop hatred and start to know how to love others.
Don’t ever think you are alone in this world, we your friends had undergone many sofisticated problems and devastating experiences but still we have the hope.
Past is over, can’t be altered
but past has armed us with experiences
we are the people of today and today we’d like to draw our plans. The experiences we had are our sword which we can fight with.
Be always ready for the challenges and as they say: keep a smile, life smiles to you.
Always remember, we are your friends who are always ready to help, assist and advise.
FRIEND: forever, rational, integrity, esteem,nerve and diligent.
Good luck
You can email us
December 17th, 2008 at 10:11 pm
Professional therapy so that the memories and feelings that come with them don’t torture you for the rest of your life.
December 19th, 2008 at 6:27 pm
You can send me a message whenever you like.
You can discuss with somebody like me. Somebody that you do not know and will never meet. Say as much as you want until you feel better. Now about your life outside. Nobody else knows about this and probably never will, so don’t worry.
December 20th, 2008 at 12:52 pm
you are old enough now, go get some counseling. it will help you it’s someone you can talk to about it and no one else will know.
May 15th, 2009 at 11:07 am
Tommy Girl, getting over something like that is a long and I’m sure fairly awful process. It takes a lot of courage and commitment, but unfortunately it isn’t something that you will ever find the answer to online. You need to get offline, get some true, supportive help, and work through this in your own time. Good luck.